Welcome to our May Blog Hop!
This month we are so excited to help you in your business and life. You’ll find fabulous articles, how-to’s and resources for you today that have helped each consultant, blogger and business owner on the hop in their own lives and businesses. Get ready to be inspired for a wonderful month ahead of you as you move along through the blog hop.
You may just be starting the blog hop or may have come from #8 Robin Hardy. If you get off track at any time, the full lineup below will help you move along from blog to blog so you make sure to see and learn from all of the articles featured here today.
Are You Preparing to Fail?
May has already been a month of big leaps for me. After several years of blogging and writing and saying I was working on a book, I finally took the leap and made it happen. What an amazing ride it has been. Completing a major goal like this is a rush. The roller coaster of emotions is all over the place. It is an exciting but rather scary thing to walk through.
My book is very personal and talks about my struggle with my weight. This struggle has been a part of my life for as long as I can remember. I remember hearing someone say that writing a book is like standing naked on a street corner and yelling “hey everyone, look at me.” Let’s be really transparent here. I was standing up and telling my weight loss story while my weight was not where I really wanted it to be. Certainly not the lowest it’s ever been. It was hard to face the questions in my own mind about whether I still had the authority. That is the hard thing about weight being your issue. It’s really hard to hide when you are not able to keep things where you want them.
I knew the book was coming. I was doing all the same things I had been doing that worked before, logging my food, being diligent about my fitness routine. But the weight was not budging. So I tried a few more aggressive tactics, detoxes and juice fasts, still not real progress. Suddenly, it was time to birth the book. It was ready. I wasn’t sure I was though. Things were simply in motion and I was going along for the ride. It went even better than I had imagined. My book resonated with the audience it was intended for. My tribe had my back. They have always appreciated the fact I admit to the struggle, share the ups and the downs.
After the end of the official launch period, when I was reflecting on how well it had gone, I was overcome with a revelation. I did not need this extra weight anymore. I realized the reason I couldn’t release this weight was I needed to be able to blame it when the book failed. You see that has been my tactic for years. It is how I gave myself permission to settle for less, to accept my failures. When I didn’t have a date to the junior prom, it was because of my weight. When I didn’t get the job I wanted, it was because of my weight.
Prior to winning her Oscar for best supporting actress in Twelve Years a Slave, Lupita Nyongo made a speech as she accepted her Best Breakthrough Performance Award at the Black Women in Hollywood Luncheon. It is an amazing speech that every woman should hear. One particular phrase has been echoing in my mind since I heard it. Reflecting on the things that changed in her life when she realized that there were people out there who saw beauty in a woman who was as dark skinned as she was, she said “I had begun to enjoy the seduction of inadequacy.” She was describing that sense that we can accept less of ourselves when we put on the cloak of inadequacy.
In the same way Lupita was using her dark skin as and excuse, I have spent most of my life falling back on my weight as an excuse. I share this with you, because understanding this has been crucial to me keeping most of this weight off. I believe it will be crucial to you for finding success as well. When you set lofty goals because you know there is something so much better out there, you have to ask yourself about the benefits you get from staying where you are. In a way, I was preparing myself to fail. I’m so glad I was unsuccessful. Now I can move on and so can you!
The next stop is #10 Ronda Neufeld! Thanks for visiting and I hope to see you again next month!
Because You're Worth It!
Blog Hop participants lineup:
- Natalie Bradley at Natalie Bradley Consulting <<– you are here!
- Rochelle Togo-Figa at RTF Coaching
- M. Shannon Hernandez at The Writing Whisperer
- Jill Russo Fosster at JillRussoFoster.com
- Deb Brown at Touch Your Client’s Heart
- Vicki Heise at Vicki Heise ~ Live Your Healthy Life
- Kim McDaniels at iBiz Design Duchess
- Robin Hardy at Integrity Virtual Services
- Heidi Kleine at Worth it Woman
- Ronda Neufeld at Ronda Neufeld Relationship & Life Coach
And if you want to check out my book, Worth It! Shatter Your Excuses and Free Yourself to Shine, it’s available on amazon!