Stop for a minute and think, what have you not done because you noticed someone else was already doing it? How often do you find yourself competing with the “flower” next to you? Isn’t that what we are doing when we make comparisons?What has competing with the flower next to you prevented you from achieving?
Spring is in the air. Blossoms are all around. It all has me thinking about this quote. At first, I was going to talk about how the flower doesn’t have a care in the world. It just blossoms out with all it’s splendor for us to admire. Then I got to thinking, maybe that’s not the right message. How do we know what the flower is thinking? Maybe this beautiful tree is full of flowers just and angsty as a middle school girls locker room. The important thing here is the simple act of blooming.
The buds on the tree don’t seem to have a choice. When the temperature is right and the time arrives, they bloom. It is our ability to choose that mucks up the process. We have the luxury, or the pain, of being able to decide for ourselves when the time is right. I love this quote from Anais Nin
And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to bloom.
So if you are feeling the pain, if you know it is time to bloom, how do you get past the fear?
- Name it. Blooming is scary. A blossom and a bud interact with the world in a different way. Accept the fear and don’t pretend it’s not there.
- Seek community. Rather than looking around to see who you are competing with, look for who might be a great partner. The world is full of information and opportunity. Somebody out there is doing what you want to do. That does not mean you shouldn’t do it too. Your story is unique. Your voice is your own. The world needs what you have to offer.
- Don’t measure your start against someone else’s peak. The late bloomer can be just as beautiful as the first flower. The bud doesn’t say “Oh bummer, that one beat me to blooming. Too late for me.” We often are only seeing the end result of years of hard work. My Dad sent me a great text the other day. It said “As many outstanding people will attest, what seems to the world like ‘instant’ success often has a very long prep time behind the scene!” I’m lucky to have him as part of my team. You might be in the prep time phase of things. That’s OK.
- Start. Don’t wait for perfection, you won’t get there. You will learn along the way. Each mistake is an opportunity to grow and learn. Sometimes it is our mistakes that resonate most with the people we are trying to serve.
- Celebrate. Pat yourself on the back for each step forward. Acknowledge the effort and congratulate yourself.
Next time you see a bush in bloom, reflect on each of the individual flowers. Then step back and reflect on the whole. The world is a better, more beautiful place when all of us blossom. How sad would it be if only one of those flowers had been willing to bloom?
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